Tues, July 22: Eric Pride on Managing Breakups in the Scene
Managing Breakups in the Scene:
The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
When: Tuesday, July 22, 2014, 8-10:30 pm
Where: Toney Roses, 65 E Jefryn Blvd Deer Park, NY 11729 @ map
Cost: $5 for members, $7 for non-members
Dress code: Street legal casual
About the discussion:
An inevitable reality about relationships is that they may not last forever. The same of course is true for relationships in the scene. Breakups are taxing, stressful and very emotional.
In this presentation we talk about why lifestyle relationships sometimes come to an end, how to handle the breakup process, and how to get back on our feet again. Questions we will address include: How are lifestyle and vanilla breakups different? What are “fair breakups”? How do we handle our own and previous partner’s feelings and emotions? How do we deal with family, friends and other people who are affected by the breakup? How do we get back out there?
This presentation is conducted as an interactive discussion. All who attend are expected to actively participate.
About the presenter:
Eric Pride, together with his wife Lady Christie, heads a structured, authority-based household in New York. The household celebrated its 10-year anniversary in 2012. The primary focus of the household is integrating healthy power-exchange dynamics into daily life and providing guidance, training, and support for its individuals. Eric enjoys consensual S&M, blogs on different aspects of the lifestyle, and gives presentations on alternative lifestyle relationships, structured authority-based living, S&M, ritual and spirituality.
Eric has presented nationwide at numerous conferences, organizations and events. He is a founding member and an instructor at the Master/slave Development Center, an educational group for Masters and slaves. He is also the founder of NYC Kinky Living (NYCKL) and the producer of the hands-on immersive full-day events KinkWorks: Creating and Living Positive BDSM Lifestyle Relationships, PlaySpace, and EdgePlay. Contact Eric at Eric.Pride@gmail.com.
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The pleasure of Tantric erogenous zones
Finding your pleasure zones
Can touching the tip of your partner’s nose, or stroking her little finger, turn her on?
Perhaps—these are two of the “tertiary” erogenous zones that lovers wishing to have a more intense experience might consider exploring.
Teachers Michaels & Johnson talked about using erogenous zones during their hands-on class at the July 8 LILNR meeting.
Offering a demonstration on each other as they explained each zone, the couple encouraged audience members to pair up and try tantric touch on each other.
Tertiary, secondary, primary areas
They explained that the tertiary areas—which include the ear opening, the nostril, thumbs, palms, navel, anus, the back of the knee, the big toe, and the sole of the foot, along with the already mentioned tip of nose and little finger—can further heighten arousal once the person’s already turned on.
But before getting to the tertiary zones, lovers can rev things up on the secondary zones. These include the nape of the neck, the earlobes, the small of the back, the gluteal folds, and the inner thighs. Lovers can linger on the secondary and tertiary zones for some time before moving to the primary zones—the mouth, breasts, and genitals.
A heightened state of arousal
In Tantric sexual practice, it is important to prolong the excitement phase, Michaels & Johnson said. The Tantric and Ayurvedic traditions have long recognized specific zones of the body that are particularly responsive to stimulation, and some schools of Tantra (particularly in South India) have developed a systematic approach to the stimulation of these zones in order to produce high states of arousal. This system was introduced to the West by Dr. Jonn Mumford in 1976 and is still little known.
About the presenters
Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are a devoted married couple. They have been creative collaborators—teaching and writing about sexuality and Tantra together—since 1999. Michaels & Johnson are the authors of Partners in Passion (Cleis 2014), Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. Their books have garnered numerous awards: Independent Publishing (IPPY), ForeWord Reviews, and USA Book News Best Books, among others. They are also the creators of the meditation CD set “Ananda Nidra: Blissful Sleep.” To support the pleasure-positive community in New York, they co-founded Pleasure Salon in 2007.
You can find out about other workshops and training, or purchase the books mentioned above, at Michaels & Johnson’s website, tantrapm.com.
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Sunday, July 20: LILNR’s annual picnic!
Featuring Bob’s famous St. Louis Carolina ribs!
Not actually Bob’s ribs, but you get the idea.
Location: Bethpage State Park Picnic Grounds
Cost: FREE! ($8 parking fee at the park)
Dress code: comfy clothes (this is a public park)
Don’t forget sun screen and bug spray
Directions: From the Southern State Parkway Take EXIT 28 (rt 135) NORTH – Syosset Take EXIT 8 (Powell Ave/Bethpage State Park) Make LEFT at Powell Ave Make first LEFT into Park Head straight to parking booth – park in picnic area @ map
Look for the LILNR banner! We will have a spot waiting for you, along with a beer/wine permit.
Please, no hard liquor. LILNR will provide paper plates, utensils, and random other things.
BYOS
Please bring your own stuff: food, beverage and charcoal. Some people get together to share their charcoal and other goodies. Most of us bring extras! It makes for a fun kinky family atmosphere.
Bring a ball or two, bring a racquet. You never know who you can pry out of a chair for an impromptu game. Volleyball may be the game of the day! Frisbees are always a hit!
While the event is FREE, please respond to the RSVP (link below) so Bob knows how many tables to round up.
This is a meeting of kinky people in a vanilla place with people of all ages and persuasions around us. Though it should go without saying, please keep you clothes on the vanilla side and no overt BDSM play in the park.
RSVP: FetLife Event Page
picture by Jessica Merz via Flickr Creative Commons
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Summer meetings and events at LILNR
Lots of folks are either heading to the TES Fest next weekend or just traveling for the 4th of July. So we’re not meeting on July 1, but will pick up the schedule on Tuesday, July 8.
Our summer schedule:
Tuesday, July 8: Tantric Erogenous Zones with Michaels and Johnson
Sunday, July 20: Annual picnic in Bethpage State Park
Tuesday, July 22: Presentation by Eric Pride (topic to be announced)
Tuesday, Aug. 5: Come over to the Dark Side (of Caning) with Adam & Gillian
Tuesday, Aug. 19: Self-bondage, with SapphiresBlues
Stay tuned for announcements for what’s coming up in the fall (I know it’s too soon to talk about Oktoberfest!).
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LILNR’s logo contest!
Attention artists and designers:
LILNR is holding a contest for a new logo.
Prize: Free membership for a year.
We’ve been using our “island” logo (above) for a while and the coordinators agree it’s time for a fresh look. The new logo will be used on our soon-to-be-redesigned website, membership cards, and elsewhere. It should be recognizable even at a small size.
Please use “Long Island Leather N Roses” or “LILNR” as part or all of the design.
Top ten entries will be selected by the coordinators, and then LILNR members will pick the winner. (You don’t have to be a current member to submit an entry). The winning logo will be featured on our website along with the top runners-up.
Submit logos & your contact info to: webmistress@lilnr.org by August 1, 2014.
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Tuesday, July 8: Tantric Erogenous Zones
Tantric Erogenous Zones with Michaels and Johnson
Please RVSP on the FetLife event page.
Date: Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Time: 8-10:30 pm
Location: Toney Roses, 65 E Jefryn Blvd Deer Park, NY 11729 @ map
Cost: $5 for members, $7 for non-members
Dress code: Street legal casual
Finding your pleasure zones
In Tantric sexual practice, it is important to prolong the excitement phase. The Tantric and Ayurvedic traditions have long recognized specific zones of the body that are particularly responsive to stimulation, and some schools of Tantra (particularly in South India) have developed a systematic approach to the stimulation of these zones in order to produce high states of arousal. This system was introduced to the West by Dr. Jonn Mumford in 1976 and is still little known. In this workshop, we will introduce you to to these zones and the basic principles for working with them systematically.
About the presenters
Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are a devoted married couple. They have been creative collaborators—teaching and writing about sexuality and Tantra together—since 1999. Michaels and Johnson are the authors of Partners in Passion (Cleis 2014), Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. Their books have garnered numerous awards: Independent Publishing (IPPY), ForeWord Reviews, and USA Book News Best Books, among others. They are also the creators of the meditation CD set “Ananda Nidra: Blissful Sleep.” To support the pleasure-positive community in New York, they co-founded Pleasure Salon in 2007.
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Tuesday, June 17: Protocol, Rituals & Rules
