Tuesday, Feb. 25: Masochists’ Fishbowl Discussion
What is a masochist and why do they do what they do?
This fishbowl discussion will explore masochism from several different perspectives.
LILNR fishbowl discussions are fun and informative! Questions or topics are submitted by the audience or panel members in written form on a slip of paper and placed in a container (or fishbowl). The questions are pulled out and read, and the panel members are first given a chance to respond. The discussion is then opened to the floor, where the audience is encouraged to participate.
You can submit your questions in advance by posting to the discussion in the LILNR FetLife group, or in private by sending a message to LILNRCoordinator or by sending an email to LILNR_Coordinators@yahoogroups.com.
Our panel of esteemed masochists include:
Rati is a masochist with a healthy dose of schadenfreude. She delights in intense sensation, and in watching others experiencing it as well. She’s fascinated with how the mind can convert pain to pleasure, how non-kinky experiences of pain can influence pain processing during play, and vice versa. While she generally bottoms, she also harbors a desire to restrain and hurt some sadistic D-types. (For some reason, they don’t seem keen to take her up on this.) Outside the dungeon, she enjoys masochistic activities such as yoga, dance, drinking intensely smoky whisky, and long trekking trips in hostile climates.
submale9992003, a/k/a Bruce, has been involved in the BDSM scene since the mid ’70s, always as a bottom. He is the “creepy old man” of the NYC scene who always seems to be welcomed everywhere he goes. Bruce is a font of knowledge when it comes to the tools and techniques of BDSM and kink play. He builds toys for his own use and for others. Bruce is a regular volunteer as a DEM for many events and demo bottom for classes.
thelockdude has been a member of LILNR since 2004. He has been kinky all his life. He is a sub, but not a masochist in the traditional sense—his main interest is in the psychological aspects of the kinky universe, so he considers himself to be an emotional masochist. Jealousy, fear, humiliation—these are all big turn-ons for thelockdude. Cuckolding is his biggest fantasy and fetish.
Date: Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Time: 8:00 PM –10:30 PM
Location: Holiday Inn Express Hauppauge
2050 Express Dr S, Hauppauge, NY 11788 @ map
Cost: $5 for members, $7 for non-members
Dress code: Street legal casual
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Art by Bibbleycheese, courtesy openclipart.org
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Announcing: Long Island Submissive/Slave Circle
LILNR announces its new Submissive/Slave Circle
This is a group for all who identify as submissive, slave, or bottom, regardless of gender or affiliation. The group is a special interest group run by LILNR, but you don’t need to be an LILNR member to attend. This group will meet once a month, on a Saturday, and is a safe place to bring up any and all concerns.
Switches are welcome, as long as they are in sub or bottom mode during the meetings. The meetings will have topics of interest, but the first one will be more general, and will have a more open discussion of what topics you wish to discuss.
Looking forward to seeing and meeting all the wonderful submissives, slaves and other bottoms from the Island.
Questions or suggestions? Contact either CutiepieLI or Ldydreaming.
Date: Saturday, Feb. 22, 2014
Time: 11 am to 1 pm
Location: Atlantis Diner, 350 Montauk Hwy, West Islip (@ map)
Cost: Whatever you purchase to eat or drink.
Dress code: Vanilla
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Image courtesy of Open Clip Art
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New meeting location (during renovations) found
While our current site is being renovated, meetings will be held in Hauppage, starting with the Feb. 4, 2014, planning meeting & ticket auction (click here for details).
Meetings will now be held at the Holiday Inn Express,
2050 Express Drive South, Hauppauge, New York 11788. (Map)
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POSTPONED: Jan. 21 Planning Meeting & Ticket Auction
Weather alert:
This meeting is postponed till Tuesday, Feb. 4, due to anticipated snow.
New location: The rescheduled meeting will be held at the Holiday Inn Express,
2050 Express Drive South, Hauppauge, New York 11788. (Map)
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Description: What topics would you like to learn about? Do you know someone who could be a presenter? Want to help find people to present? Have a kinky talent to demonstrate/teach?
Join us in planning for future LILNR topics. A fun ticket auction (aka Chinese auction) will round out the evening.
One ticket given at the door with admission. Additional tickets:
- $1 for 1
- $5 for 7
- $10 for 20
What are we auctioning? (sorry, no people). We have:
things that will make some go ouch for a while
some of us grin with a devious smile
things made of leather and things made of wood
things made of metal, for nasty and good
things that might make some of us cry
and you can have them if the right ticket you buy!
Time: 8–10:30 p.m.
Location: Courtyard By Marriott, Runway Room, 2 Marriott Plaza Farmingdale, NY 11735
Cost: $5 for members, $7 for non-members
Dress code: Street legal casual
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Art by yves_guillou
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Seeking a new location
Suggestions needed
Long Island Leather N Roses has been meeting since May at the Courtyard By Marriott in Farmingdale. The hotel is about to undergo renevations, however, and our meeting space will not be available after the end of January. At this stage we’re not sure we’ll still have our space after the renovations are complete.
So we’re seeking alternate locations for our meetings and demos. If anyone following this blog knows of a meeting location, please contact us ASAP.
We’ll need a place that is kink-friendly, can hold 60 or more people, and rents for about $200 + the price of coffee. Centrally located is best; ideally, we’re hoping for something within about five miles of Rt. 110.
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Past event: Jan. 7: Basic Rope Bondage Part 2
Dress code: Street legal casual but wear form fitting clothes if you expect to be tied
Rope is a very versatile tool in the kink tool chest. Sensual or sadistic, bondage is sexy fun. As versatile as rope is, many people find it daunting and give up without ever really trying. This meeting is designed for beginners; we’ll teach basic ties that are the building blocks of bigger scenes. You’ll learn cuffs and restraints that are sure to get the party started! Experienced riggers should attend to learn a new perspective or trick, and to help out others.
If you have rope, bring it. Three 25′ – 30′ pieces and two 12′ – 15′ pieces should be fine, and 1/4″ diameter works best for most people. Don’t have rope? Don’t worry! LILNR rope dudes have rope to lend and LILNR will have rope sets for sale. If you can’t wait to get started click here for a guide to a basic rope kit.
If you’re comfortable being tied, form-fitting clothes are best, with loose fitting a second choice. If you’re tying, wear clothes that allow for easy movement.
We encourage people to buddy up and tie each other, but consent is key. No means no.
Jim a/k/a Vigilant60 is relatively new to the kink scene but his energy and enthusiasm has taken him far. A craftsman by nature and profession, Jim has embraced rope as his erotic tool, happily tying the happily tied. Jim is a coordinator of LILNR and a facilitator or LIRR. Apart from his bondage talents Jim designs and constructs suspension rigs and all manner of fun BDSM furniture.
Spike-NY has been playing with rope and girls for a long time, but it was only when he found LILNR and took some classes that he was actually able to keep the rope on the girl! Spike has developed a versatile kit of kink tools that includes rope, sensation play, pressure points, hypnosis, and various and nefarious forms of impact play and torture.
Check in at the Event Page. Doors open at 7:30.
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Past Event: Dec. 17: LILNR Holiday Pot-Luck Party!
Join us for a Pot Luck dinner to celebrate the season!
Here’s a perfect opportunity to show off your culinary skills to a most appreciative gathering. We start early, at 7 pm, to have more time for socializing.
Beverages, paper goods and utensils will be provided. We also have trays to keep food warm.
Progressive Grab Bag for those who wish to participate.
Grab Bag gift must be wrapped and valued between $15 – $20.
RSVP by December 12th.
Please message Ldydreaming with your food contribution. Appetizers, entrees, side dishes and desserts are all welcome!
| Date & Time: | Tuesday, December 17, 2013 · 7:00 PM –10:00 PM |
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| Location: |
The Courtyard By Marriott, Runway Room
2 Marriott Plaza Farmingdale, NY 11735 @ map |
| Cost: | **Free** for paid -up LILNR Members. Guests are welcome for a nominal fee of $10.00 |
| Dress code: | Festive! |
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Photo courtesy Open Clip Art by Johnny Automatic
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Past event: Dec. 3: Swap & Shop
Time to clean out your kinky closet … or find something new for your toy bag?
Have one too many crops, floggers, canes, etc?
Need a special present for someone deserving?
Some slightly used kinky clothes that no longer fit?
Looking for something new?
Do you make or sell kinky stuff? Do you make or sell holiday stuff?
Come to LILNR’s Swap & Shop
Tuesday, December 3
Location: Courtyard By Marriott, Runway Room
Address: 2 Marriott Plaza Farmingdale, NY 11735
$5 for members, $7 for non members.
Doors open at 8 pm; vendor set up at 7:30 pm.
A fun night dedicated to swapping, trading, and purchasing new or used items.
Find that special item just in time for the kinky holidays!
Light refreshments will be served for a small donation.
Interested in a table?
SPACE IS LIMITED—RESERVE NOW!
$10 per table** for members
$20 per table** for nonmembers
Please contact Wyzasswench for more information!
Hope to see you there!
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**Each vendor is being asked to donate one item for future fundraisers..
Photo by Manu (ErosPyramide20090221_295) [CC-BY-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
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Past event: Nov. 19: Sadists and sadism fishbowl discussion
Last March, Long Island Leather N Roses hosted a “fishbowl” on dominance and submission, and it proved to be a very lively evening with lots of questions. This time we’re tackling the topic of sadism.
The format of a “fishbowl discussion” is quite simple: Questions or topics are submitted by the audience or panel members in written form on a slip of paper and placed in a container (or fishbowl). The questions are pulled out and read, and the panel members are first given a chance to respond. The discussion is then opened to the floor, where the audience is encouraged to participate.
Check back to our website here for more information about where to submit questions. If you have something on your mind that you want addressed before then, please email LILNR_Coordinators@yahoogroups.com.
Date: Tuesday, Nov. 19, 8-10 pm
Courtyard By Marriott, Runway Room
2 Marriott Plaza Farmingdale, NY 11735 @ map
The doors open at 7:30 pm.
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Photo courtesy myheimu on Flickr
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Past event: Nov. 5: Rope Bondage: It’s Knot Difficult
Presentation by Jim, AKA Vigilant60.
Tuesday, Nov. 5, 8-10 pm
Courtyard By Marriott, Runway Room
2 Marriott Plaza Farmingdale, NY 11735 @ map
RSVP: FetLife event page
Rope is a very versatile tool in the kink tool chest. Sensual or sadistic, bondage is sexy fun. As versatile as rope is, many people find it daunting and give up without ever really trying. This meeting is designed for beginners to teach basic ties that are the building blocks of bigger scenes. You’ll learn cuffs and restraints that are sure to get the party started! Experienced riggers should attend to learn a new perspective or trick and to help out others.
If you have rope, bring it. Three pieces 25′ – 30′ and two pieces 12′ – 15′ is fine. A 1/4″ diameter works best for most people. Don’t have rope? Don’t worry! LILNR rope dudes have rope to lend and LILNR will have rope sets for sale. If you can’t wait to get started, click here for a guide to a basic rope kit.
If you’re planning on being tied, comfortable, form fitting clothes are best, with loose fitting a second choice. If you’re tying, wear clothes that allow for easy movement.
We encourage people to buddy up and tie each othe,r but consent is key. No means no.
Our presenter, Jim, is relatively new to the kink scene but his energy and enthusiasm have taken him far. A craftsman by nature and profession, Jim has embraced rope as his erotic tool, happily tying the happily tied. Jim is a coordinator of LILNR and a facilitator or LIRR. Apart from his bondage talents, Jim designs and constructs suspension rigs and all manner of fun BDSM furniture.
Check in at the Event Page. Doors open at 7:30.
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Photo courtesy Jbc01 and originally published on AussieRopeWorks.com, via Wikimedia Commons
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