Do you identify as an “S type” … a submissive or slave, or anyone interested in being the more submissive half of a power-exchange relationship?
The good, the bad and the ugly about breaking up with a scene partner
Most of us have gone through breakups, in and out of the scene, and they are never easy, even for the partner who initiated the breakup. Sometimes there’s no way of avoiding pain or avoiding hurting someone else. But there are ways to try to make things easier, Eric Pride told Long Island Leather N Roses on Tuesday, July 22.
Think of it more as a “transformation”
For many people the word “breakup” means destruction or hatred, while using the term “transformation” can lead to civility and respect, Eric said. Also, people sometimes think a breakup means they’ve failed. Eric suggested instead to cherish the experiences you’ve had together and don’t consider it wasted time. See the rest of this entry…
Managing Breakups in the Scene:
The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
When: Tuesday, July 22, 2014, 8-10:30 pm, Toney Roses, 65 E Jefryn Blvd Deer Park, NY 11729 @ map
About the discussion:
An inevitable reality about relationships is that they may not last forever. The same of course is true for relationships in the scene. Breakups are taxing, stressful and very emotional.
In this presentation we talk about why lifestyle relationships sometimes come to an end, how to handle the breakup process, and how to get back on our feet again. Questions we will address include: How are lifestyle and vanilla breakups different? What are “fair breakups”? How do we handle our own and previous partner’s feelings and emotions? How do we deal with family, friends and other people who are affected by the breakup? How do we get back out there? See the rest of this entry…
Finding your pleasure zones
Perhaps—these are two of the “tertiary” erogenous zones that lovers wishing to have a more intense experience might consider exploring.
Teachers Michaels & Johnson talked about using erogenous zones during their hands-on class at the July 8 LILNR meeting.
Offering a demonstration on each other as they explained each zone, the couple encouraged audience members to pair up and try tantric touch on each other. See the rest of this entry…
Featuring Bob’s famous St. Louis Carolina ribs!
Location: Bethpage State Park Picnic Grounds
Cost: FREE! ($8 parking fee at the park)
Dress code: comfy clothes (this is a public park)
Don’t forget sun screen and bug spray
Directions: From the Southern State Parkway Take EXIT 28 (rt 135) NORTH – Syosset Take EXIT 8 (Powell Ave/Bethpage State Park) Make LEFT at Powell Ave Make first LEFT into Park Head straight to parking booth – park in picnic area @ map
Look for the LILNR banner! We will have a spot waiting for you, along with a beer/wine permit.
Please, no hard liquor. LILNR will provide paper plates, utensils, and random other things.
Please bring your own stuff: food, beverage and charcoal. Some people get together to share their charcoal and other goodies. Most of us bring extras! It makes for a fun kinky family atmosphere.
Bring a ball or two, bring a racquet. You never know who you can pry out of a chair for an impromptu game. Volleyball may be the game of the day! Frisbees are always a hit!
While the event is FREE, please respond to the RSVP (link below) so Bob knows how many tables to round up.
This is a meeting of kinky people in a vanilla place with people of all ages and persuasions around us. Though it should go without saying, please keep you clothes on the vanilla side and no overt BDSM play in the park.
RSVP: FetLife Event Page
picture by Jessica Merz via Flickr Creative Commons
Lots of folks are either heading to the TES Fest next weekend or just traveling for the 4th of July. So we’re not meeting on July 1, but will pick up the schedule on Tuesday, July 8.
Our summer schedule:
Tuesday, July 8: Tantric Erogenous Zones with Michaels and Johnson
Sunday, July 20: Annual picnic in Bethpage State Park
Tuesday, July 22: Presentation by Eric Pride (topic to be announced)
Tuesday, Aug. 5: Come over to the Dark Side (of Caning) with Adam & Gillian
Tuesday, Aug. 19: Self-bondage, with SapphiresBlues
Stay tuned for announcements for what’s coming up in the fall (I know it’s too soon to talk about Oktoberfest!).
Attention artists and designers:
LILNR is holding a contest for a new logo.
Prize: Free membership for a year.
We’ve been using our “island” logo (above) for a while and the coordinators agree it’s time for a fresh look. The new logo will be used on our soon-to-be-redesigned website, membership cards, and elsewhere. It should be recognizable even at a small size.
Please use “Long Island Leather N Roses” or “LILNR” as part or all of the design.
Top ten entries will be selected by the coordinators, and then LILNR members will pick the winner. (You don’t have to be a current member to submit an entry). The winning logo will be featured on our website along with the top runners-up.
Submit logos & your contact info to: firstname.lastname@example.org by August 1, 2014.
Date: Tuesday, July 8, 2014, 8-10:30 pm, Toney Roses, 65 E Jefryn Blvd Deer Park, NY 11729 @ map
Tantric Erogenous Zones with Michaels and Johnson
Finding your pleasure zones
In Tantric sexual practice, it is important to prolong the excitement phase. The Tantric and Ayurvedic traditions have long recognized specific zones of the body that are particularly responsive to stimulation, and some schools of Tantra (particularly in South India) have developed a systematic approach to the stimulation of these zones in order to produce high states of arousal. This system was introduced to the West by Dr. Jonn Mumford in 1976 and is still little known. In this workshop, we will introduce you to to these zones and the basic principles for working with them systematically. See the rest of this entry…