Now that you have gotten this far, you probably have lots of questions.  We’ll try to answer some of them for you...

Question:

Why is there so much mention of   “Safe, Sane and Consensual”?

Answer:

The origination of the terminologies used in our lifestyle invokes many ‘negative’ stereotypes. Whether by design in the origin of utilization, or, whether through need for a simple usage the closely describes our lives, it emotes significant negative imagery.

The difference between what we are, and, what people may believe we are is in the degree of consensuality that many of us bring to our lives. Many love and cherish their partners to a degree not often found in a standard relational dynamic. Many hold a deep and abiding respect for life and the potential that other people bring to it.

Generally speaking, NOTHING we do will cause permanent physical harm or debilitating emotional trauma. People involved in the physicality of S&M activities often speak of it as though it were a rigorous sport. At times it may be somewhat painful or potentially dangerous, but it is exhilarating none-the-less.

Many ascribe to a romanticism that far exceeds that found in the majority of relationships. They may consider their partner the most important person on the earth. They may choose to show love and respect in many ways. Some even consider the submission shown to another to be a ‘gift’. That, by allowing themselves to become submissive to another and to relinquish control to another, is the ultimate in trust and love.

SAFETY is our most important point. We realize that once you have decided that you wish to embark on this journey into the erotic, you will be extremely driven to find a partner to enjoy playing with. The community continually emphasizes SAFETY.

Get to know your prospective partner first, NEVER give up your safety or control of your body to an unknown person. We have regular orientation sessions for new persons to learn the joys and possible dangers of playing and the intimacy of the erotic.

Question:

What goes on at the meetings?

Answer:

Our group is moderated by a panel of experienced lifestyle “COORDINATORS”, who organize and lead the meetings.

Each week our group has a topic of discussion that is presented by one of our willing (sometimes) volunteers. After their presentation, the floor is open to all persons attending to ask questions, offer suggestions and take part in what is quite often a spirited and fast moving give and take of ideas. Meetings are also a wonderful way of getting to know others like you and to possibly meet a person of interest. We have a variety of singles, couples and all orientations at our meetings. EVERYONE is welcome, 21 and OVER, PLEASE. Our meetings are educational, informative and often involve live demonstrations of the presenter’s particular skill or interest.

WE ARE NOT A SWINGERS CLUB, SEX CLUB, or the such. We DO NOT “PLAY” at the meetings.

Question:

Is there a dress code for meetings?

Answer:

Yes,.....You will have to wear a  yellow chicken suit and frogman flippers.

JUST KIDDING...Please feel free to wear what ever you wish, jeans, casual clothes, a suit, or fetish wear if you desire. This is one place that you can feel totally comfortable wearing your fetish gear if you desire.

Question:

OK, I’m interested, where is the meeting?

Answer:

Please see the link titled "Meetings:  Location/Details".

Question:

How do I become a member?

Answer:

Come to our meeting, get to know us, if you wish to join we will request that you fill out a membership form and pay a $15.00 yearly membership. Benefits of membership include discounts at many adult and fetish wear shops in New York and Long Island, discounted admission to play parties held at various venues and more. You will be required to prove, with photo ID, that you are over 21 years old.

Question:

I’m still a bit unsure of myself, what do I do?

Answer:

We maintain a YAHOO GROUPS web group that lets you keep in contact with us, post messages, questions, communicate and feel your way around the lifestyle if you wish, as well as share ideas and ask questions. Click on the link to join us !    

Question:

How do I know what the topic of the meeting will be?

Answer:

We have two or three meetings a year to map out prospective topics for discussion. The results are posted on the YAHOO group. Ideas from the floor and volunteers for presentations are ALWAYS sought after and welcome. Share with us. It’s fun!

Question:

Do you ever get together for play parties?

Answer:

Yes, we often attend public play clubs as a group and with other similar groups in the Tri-State area. Many of us also attend private parties given here on Long Island with others in our lifestyle. Getting to know us is one of the best ways to find out what is happening in the area.